Welcome to CYB| Chea-Yee's Blog.

This blog captures the musings and anecdotes of the daily life of a Malaysian who is now living in Melbourne, Australia.


If Men Were Like Buses.

God bless me.

God makes me fertile.

I am going to have lots and lots of babies.

God give me my period back.

*Waha ha hahahhahahahahaah*.

I took this off Char's blog.......

So curi-curi yeah...okay lar..

It's a summary..but you get the gist. If you want to read the longer detailed one go here.

If Men Were Like Buses, How Do I Catch One? By Michelle McKinney Hammond.

Answer: You only take the the bus that is headed the RIGHT direction.

Whenever you meet a man, you need to get clearance from God, check out his attributes, and then allow your heart to engage.

Friendship is two people walking together in agreement and accountability, learning and growing together.
Courtship follows the mutual agreement to commit to one another exclusively. It is the decisive turning towards the agreed upon goal of the marriage altar.

A checklist in comparing it to clothes shopping.

1. Check out the fabric.

Is he mate material?

Does he care what God thinks about his behaviour?

Who is he accountable to should he decide to make decisions?
Accountability is an important factor to maintaining a committed relationshp.

Do you have common interest and values and agree on the same things?
Like minded folks fare better together.

Do you both want to get married? If a guy says he's not looking for anything serious, take his words seriously. If he's not going in your direction, get off the bus & wait for the right one.

2. Does this man want you? Is he pursuing you?

He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favour from the Lord (Proverbs 18:22). is the THE MAN that FINDs the Wife.

A man should recognise you the woman, as the pearl of great price in his life and is willing to sell all in order to gain your hand.

So women, take the chill pill. Relax, sit prety and allow yourself to be found.

WAIT until the man voices his intentions. He should take the lead in establishing the relationshp. Allow him the opportunity to woo you. This is your first act of submission. Jesus set the standard for all men to follow. They should love us first. And they should lead the relationship.

3. This man in your life should not desire to move into your home, only into your heart.

A man should have the means to be a suitable lover for you.

4. Check out his buddies.

A man's pals tells you a lot about the person that you haven't seen yet. They reveal things about the guy's character that might be hidden when he is on good behaviour.

5. Check out his relationship with his mother.

How a man treats his wife will be an indicator of how he treats you. Unresolved issues will continue between husband and wife.

How does he talk to his mother?

How does he treat his sisters?

6. Remember that a man's family reveals the cloth from which he's cut.

Take note and decide whether you want your future with the man in your life to look like his present family situation.

7. Check out the patterns of his life.

Do you see repeated cycles of drama in his personal kingdom?

Broken relationships?

Does he embrace responsibility or shirk it?

Is he always changing jobs?

Can he keep his promises?

Can he keep his commitments?

8. Does this man have a vision for his life?

Is he running with that vision?

Is he guided by a sense of destiny and purpose, or does he just allow life to happen around him?

A man who is not certain of his mission can be a most miserable person- and you'll be miserable too if you know where YOU want to go in life.

A man who has vision is not intimidated by a woman whose mission statement is clear.

A man who shirks from his responsibilities as the father is LAZY (in Capital letters).

We are looking for a man who will be priest and leader of his home. His first instinct should be want to cover you, redeem you, and provide for you.

Your job is to decide if this is the man God has ordained for you to complement.

9. Complementary.

Do your talents and gifts complement his? Does his to yours?

What about your temperaments?

Can you co-ordinate your gifts in an attractive and effective way?

If I find that I am going to have to buy shoes and matching accessories o go with a new outfit, I leave it right on the rack. It is too expensive a proposition.

Is this relationshp expensive spiritually, emotionally or physically?

Does your longing for a mate make you willing to forfeit who you are in the process?

Any relationship that causes you to feel unworthy, unlovely, unacceptable, undesirable or that you have to work for love, is too expensive!

10. Does he have a healthy love & acceptance of himself?

Has he taken time to heal himself from past hurts and relationships?

How he cares for himself is how he will care for you.

A man's relationshp with God is crucial here. His love for himself will only be as strong as his love for God. This is not something you can impart. You cannot be his saviour or teacher. That is out of spiritual order.

If you and your man can't soar in the Spirit, when the force of your love for another is tested by the pull or gravity of the world, your union will not be able to survive. So you decide.

How much is your life worth? How much is your love worth?

You will be able to accept only what you believe you deserve. God himself calculated the worth of your love as a bride, and decided it was worth His life. He now pledges you His Love for eternity.
Yes, Jesus sets the example for all others to follow when He paid the ransom for His bride. Should you expect any less from a mortal man?

Throughout the biblical age, men were willing to pay the cost for the hand that they desired. The truth of the matter is, everyone knows that anythng worth having, costs.

And no one gets a ride in this life for free.

No comments

© CYB | Chea-Yee's Blog • Theme by Maira G.