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Waiting on God.

I wonder really, how many times have I written on this already?

Anyway, I was reading my educational texts this morning, when the thought just came to me that I should blog this.

If you are wondering, I have been reading my housemate's book, "When God Writes Your Love Story" by Eric & Leslie Ludy from time to time.

It is almost similar to Boy Meets Girl by Joshua Harris (which I think is better), which I bought a couple of years back. It took me ages to actually go through Boy Meets Girl, cause the first time I read it a couple of years back, I found the way that Harris has portrayed our relationship with God and "our waiting on God" much too difficult a pill to swallow.

But after going through it the second time, like last year, I found that I could actually relate to it better. Of course, my reasons for relating to it by then had completely taken an entire round-a-bout circle of change.

Now, why am I relating this on my blog?

Firstly, I think that "Waiting on God" is a concept, that I find not many people to really understand.

There have been so many times within the past few years that I found this entire "Waiting on God" concept to be real ironic. Isn't it strange that a lot of people get hitched, or start dating because they "dont want to feel alone"? Or, they do that because they are alone, and along the same time, know that the person was not really the person who was right for them, but they'd rather have someone, then to not have someone?

That was a real temptation for me in the past many years since I had broken it off with the first guy I broke off with after a year. He, on the other hand, is now *technically engaged* to this girl, and they are most probably getting married before he reaches the age of 30. Which is not too long from now.

I on the other hand, have opted not to do that. One of the things that Harris has noted is that the reason God does not bring the right person, (or even if the right person has come into our lives), is because He feels that we are "not prepared" to shoulder this responsibility of having to care for another person.

When God brings the right person to us, he intends that it should be a long-term commitment between both partners. A relationship which has God in the middle, and as the Head.

Did you not know that a cord of three is not easily broken? Ecclesiastes 4:7.

When we shoulder the responsibility of having to care for someone, it includes a commitment till the day when we have grown old, and the beauty has faded from her cheeks, and their skin that has turned to chalk.

How many times have we got involved with a partner, for a short-term fling, and ended up with broken hearts and pain at the end of it?

I think that it will be a revelation for the younger generation if they knew this truth. How differently they would live their lives if they knew the plan that God has given for them.

A friend has noted to me that it is difficult for us to find someone that we like. With mutual attraction and affection of both sides of the interested parties. So they start it with the rationale that it is okay, because "like-like mah".

But once again, the question that I have asked myself, or I would ask them is that

"Does this relationship honour God?"

"Does the way we run this relationship honour God's purpose for us?"

"Is it God's purpose for me to be in this relationship?"

I would like to mention to this too, a verse from

1 Corinthians 13: 4-7

4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.

5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.

6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.

7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

This verse has kept me away from trouble and temptations for the duration of my time since I arrived in Toowoomba. I believe that it will continue to do so in future, and for others as well.

How can you define a man (or a woman) who is self-seeking?

~Self-seeking is where a human goes seeking for their own pleasures, without any regard for any other parties that could be involved (or not involved).

~Self-seeking is where a man (or a woman) pressures their partner to have sex with them.

~Self-seeking is where a person goes for a fling with another person, without any regard to how the other party might feel at the end of it.

~Self-seeking is where a person goes for a one-night stand with another person, without any regard to how their behaviour may affect the other person's perception of them.

~Self-seeking is when a married man (woman) runs off with another woman (man), and leaving the family (and children involved) behind, because the other man (woman) holds for them more understanding, pleasure and beauty.

If a person loves another, they seek to "always love (the other person as themselves), always trusts (God), always hope (in God), and always perseveres (for the sake of God)."

I know that even when a person "waits on God", it does not mean that they will be immune from the heart-aches, crushes and pain.

But I feel that it is the experience of "waiting on God" as we go through these life troubles as we seek God's counsel that we get develop a more intimate and closer bond to God.

It's not that "Waiting on God" should be a curse, or a burden that we as followers of Christ should put on our shoulder like.

But as Ludy says, we should "let God be our sweeter song".

That "waiting on God" be a time and experience in our faith that He is changing our hearts, preparing us for the time that when He brings the right person into our lives, where we would be able to embrace it, because He has made all things ready for us because the time is right.


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