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This blog captures the musings and anecdotes of the daily life of a Malaysian who is now living in Melbourne, Australia.

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Dental Surgery.

28/02/2005

Dental Surgery.

Ok, just to inform you guys that I'll be having my dental surgery on the afternoon of 11th March, 2005 (Friday). I have been waiting a while to get it done, and fortunately that will be done on the eve of my school holidays. About time that is.

Having my Independent Studies classes on the 5th and 6th of March (Sunday) full day of class.
7th of March, 5pm (Monday):
Review of MCI Internship Regulations at Prime College. Chew Foong told me about this.
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Interlude

25/02/2005

Interlude

The past few days have been....

ummm...

oh well, that aside, there are more pressing matters that I have to realistically look at.

One of which, is my studies and enrolment at USQ.
I just found out that the Prime premises caught fire and the area was flooded with water. Aside from that, their internet services was down. I'm not sure how bad the condition is, but I will know when I go to the college on Friday evening.
The other is that of the revamp in my program syllabus. The two subjects that I was supposedly and prior to this, was enrolled, has been pushed forward to another semester, and both students from on campus and off campus have had to re-enrol their subject units.

I was out with KT on Wed, and he told me that a revamp of the units in universities, is not really a bad thing. Some units have to be revamped to move with the times. I'm not too sure about my current units, but since he from his first experience of studying the last 3 years in OZ can tell me that, then it probably should be so.

Nonetheless, the problem is, the year 2 students are doing Year 3 units instead. Theoritically speaking, Year 3 subjects are harder than Year 2 subjects. I'm not sure how well it will go, but hopefully everythng goes well!
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Forging a new chapter.

22/02/2005

Forging a new chapter.

As I try to close the previous chapter in my life, yet, I feel another new and stronger one forging.
It would not be one, but two that I feel shall be forged.

Someone once said that, when God closes the door, he would open a window somewhere.

It has also been said that to bring new cheese in, one has to make place by removing the old.

I remember the first time I was out with JK to meet two of his Curtin friends at Hartamas many years ago, and one who was God-fearing, by the name of Jason who was in insurance, asked me, What about me and my relationship with the Lord? I do not know what has happened to him. Neither did I have an answer for him then. Yet, until this day, the question still rings vividly in my mind.

I have asked, why it is that He has allowed what it is that has happened to me to be so?
Yes, in this times of trials and silence, I have indeed already found the answer.
And I DO feel His voice speaking to me.

As John 3:16 says, For God So Loved the World that He gave His Only Begotten Son, that Whosover Believeth in Him shall not perish but have everlasting life,

yet,

"He who did not spare His own Son, but delivered Him over for us all, how will He not also with Him freely give us all things?" Romans 8:32

I know very much that He is working in me as, it is also stated in,
Phillipians 1: 6: “Being confident of this very thing, that He which began a good work in you
will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ.”


When asked whether to surrender or not to surrender my will fully to me, I am told that,
“NO ONE whose hope is in YOU will ever be put to SHAME, but they will be put to shame who are treacherous without excuse.” (Psalm 25:3)

Even more still being that I am told to:
Delight yourself in the LORD; and He will give you the desires of your heart."
Psalm 37:4


Indeed this is no easy task. My faith is THAT small, but yet, I know that He will and will always be with me every step of the way, and I know that the Lord has not abandoned me as I feel his presence here in my life.

He has asked me to put HIM first, which I struggle at this point to do so. He has given me a new calling, and I have chosen to heed. I know not what the future brings, nor holds, but I am sure that He will meet the desires of my heart.

I have said that I have chosen to wrestle with Him, and indeed I AM. I am still struggling to deal with this current situation, but I have decided to Trust Him instead.

Indeed, for THE ONE intended reading this, know that YOU will always be in my heart, and I shall be always be praying for you. I pray that, you too will have peace in your heart, and that the desires of your heart will be met, just as I know that the same will be done for me as well.
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Wrestling With Christ.

21/02/2005

Wrestling With Christ.

I just spoke to my ex. Well, apparently he gets *paid* for writing as well. Lolz. I only have ONE ex, so you know who I am talking about. He goes under a nom de plume, so you probably wouldn't know it was him.
He finally revealed that he HAS a gf......seriously, I wonder, why all the umm..... secrecy. It's not like its going to affect me anyway.
I was more annoyed that I could not really have a proper conversation with him other than the fact that he has to hide the fact that he has a gf. (if that was his intention anyway!)...well, hopefully he is more civil these days. Ok lar....I wished him all the best and it was good that everything worked out fine for him in the end anyway. Blah Blah Blah.

I just came from Chong Keat's CNY dinner. There are some things in my mind as I write this. I'm trying to visualise this as I write.

Two roads lay stretched in front of me. I have to decide which road to take. Ok, not per se as Frost terms it.

One is the road that I surrender my will FULLY to Him.

The other is the road of my Own Will.

Damn it. I am not going to give in without a wrestle. NOT this time around. NOT THIS TIME AROUND.

I haven't come this far to go without a fight. You can either pray with me and for me, or just let me be. This is nothing personal.
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Robert Frost: Road Not Taken

Robert Frost: Road Not Taken

Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both,
And be one traveler, long I stood,
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;

Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim,
Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as far for that, the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,

And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh! I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.

I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I-
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.
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12th day of CNY

20/02/2005

12th day of CNY

Yup it's the 12th day of CNY today.

Anyway, last night I met up with Chin Mun. I should have gone out with them on Friday!!!!! *ARRRRRGGGHHHH!!!!!****

I AM SO MAD!!! I CAN'T BELIEVE MABEL DIDN'T TELL ME!!!!

BLOODY GIRL!!!!!!!!

The entire gang was there. Keng Yip. Jason. Jason's friends. BLOODY. Not to mention Chee Hoe as well. Chin Mun. Adrian. of course and Mabel as well!!! And they went for drinks. I should have just driven straight there after class. BLOODY.

Oh well, wats done is done.
Damn man. the weather in KL is just as hot at night as well. What is the problem? The earth over heating? ha ha.
Anyway, I went for George's farewell party. Watched Shrek on the dvd player. Now, the quality even of bootleg versions seems to be very clear, eh?

Well, anyway, we went to a nearby coffeeplace last night to chat. CM said he had a dejavu feeling about us being there about the same time last year. I was talking to him about Speed Dating and the lawyer. Woah...that was most definitely last year. Talked mostly about my exams and assignments. *lolz*.

How do I feel today?

Hmmmmmm . Actually, I feel GOOD. Not to say that I don't have my anxious worries and other things at the back of my mind, but......
Ok bloody.....I AM worried about my results. I have no idea what I'm going to get..and getting really paranoid here. I've gone to check my results.....and the website doesn't load!

Ok, to update you guys what that has been happening to me.

Well, I caught a cold early this week, and was down with a fever on Wednesday. It was a slight fever, but nonetheless, I was very tired and I was sick. *DAMN*.
Still recovering from a cold as of now. DAMN.
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A chapter of my life.

18/02/2005

A chapter of my life.

I have decided to close the door to a certain chapter of my life.

When I look back at it, I would be able to tell myself that my decision was right.

It is out of strength that I would make decisions, not out of fear or uncertainty.

"To bring new cheese in, I would have to remove the old one to have space".

"To truly open the door to love requires that we be willing to face the potential of loss..
Shed those things that are no longer fulfilling & affirming, for only in doing so do you make room for new experiences with greater promise.
Their loss will be your gain.

The heart of resistance is doubt and our "slavish" attachment to the comfort of familiarity. Be willing to experience the unfamiliar for in its virgin territory lies your truest potential for growth.

WHAT are the POSITIVE Changes in my life that I RESIST making?

Hope is the resistance to the way things are, the denial of reality.
Hoping wastes valuable time and brings tears to the heart.
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Fixed Beliefs.

15/02/2005

Fixed Beliefs.

My mom watched Vanity Fair. Woo Hoo. She seemed to love it. Post-Valentine's movie. *lolz* Reese Whitherspoon was Not Bad lar in her role. A bit like Legally Blonde, but in a more calculating manner using wit and brains, and it's not a no-brainer movie or a feel-good movie like wat Legally Blonde was. It needs a bit of focussing in the movid in order for you to follow the plot.

It's been quite a while since I met anyone who had energy as much as Annie did. I haven't had a conversation as such with a total stranger in a while, that it has left me feeling....umm....well, it just gave me a different perspective on Non-Verbal Communication.

Fixed Beliefs, as Asia Works calls it. Would it kill someone to do something out of their beliefs? (lets not talk about religion or faith here)
It is changing the way we see things and how we go about doing it that will Work For Us.
Yup. Yup. Yup. Welcome to the Basic Training, darling. :-)

Let's see, here are some optimistically crazy and funky things I've done with Annie...i'm sure she damn remembers it!
- (2004)Singing loudly in the garden at KLCC at night! Christmas Carols at that!!! Muahahhahahhahahahha. Everyone looked at us as if we were mad.

- (2002) Losing our way and driving the car almost into the middle of a lake on our way to A&W after my play debut.
Now that was absolutely crazy and SO funny!!!...Muahahhahahhaha

- (2004)Her ear piercing screaming in the car halfway when I was driving drove AiLing and Ricky completely nuts! Her going from totally tired to totally crazy after being filled up with "food" (fuel, in other words).

- (2004) Her ear piercing screaming driving Eugene completely nuts in the car and the infamous "SEX talk" whilst at Hartamas!

- (2003) Going for your FIRST EVER Independent movie premiere at the Istana Budaya. Damn! You looked real gorgeous then. I was so Proud!!
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E Harmony: Must Haves and Cant Stand list.

14/02/2005

E Harmony: Must Haves and Cant Stand list.

My Eharmony profile:

I am pasting this list here. Yup, it was my profile at E harmony and this are the Must Haves and Cant Stand List of mine that I will repost here. Enjoy reading!

Must Haves:
Sense of Humor...
I must have someone who is sharp and can enjoy the humorous side of life.

Strong Character...
I must have a partner who is honest and strong enough to do the right thing.

Education...
I must have someone whose educational achievements match my own.

Exciting...
I must have someone who isn't afraid to take a risk and who sees life as an adventure.

Conflict Resolver...
I must have a partner who will work to resolve rather than win arguments or conflicts within our relationship.

Autonomy...
I must have a partner who will give me space to be my own person.

Style and Appearance...
I must have someone who cares about the way they look and dress and has a sense of personal style.

Spirituality...
I must have someone with a similar deep commitment to spirituality, who shares my beliefs.

Ambition...
I must have a partner who shares my desire to achieve high financial and/or career goals.

Passionate...
I must have someone who is willing to explore our sexual desires with passion and understanding.

Can't Stands:

Self-Centered...
I can't stand someone whose main topic of conversation is himself/herself.

Rude...
I can't stand someone who is belittling, impatient or hateful to people in any situation.

Materialistic...
I can't stand someone who sees material items as a measure of success.

Denial...
I can't stand someone who is unable to accept blame or see fault in their own actions.


Intolerance...
While I understand that religious conviction is a positive trait, I can't stand someone who is self-righteous and feels that their particular faith is the only one that matters.

Childishness...
I can't stand someone who is not emotionally mature.

Petty...
I can't stand someone who focuses on imperfection.

Cheap...
I can't stand someone who is so tightfisted as to be impractical.

Foul Mouthed...
I can't stand someone who swears or uses inappropriate language or humor.

Recklessness...
I can't stand someone who has a careless and irresponsible manner when with others.

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Movie: Vanity Fair.

13/02/2005

Movie: Vanity Fair.

Was at Midvalley with Peng Guan earlier. Anyways, whilst there I bumped or I saw....many familiar faces.

Let's see..there was Hsien Ling & Derrick that I saw on the UG floor.
Then there was SY's bf and his bro? (I think) at the G floor.
Finally, as I was going home, I bumped into Velex and his family!!! WOAH. Velex was drinking this liquid beverage.Vicki came and gave me a hug. Velex LOOKS SO CUTE!!!!!!!! *muacks* *muacks* *muacks* *muacks*....
I want to have kids THAT cute...hehehe. At least 3 to 4 lor. :-)

Vanity Fair was not bad a movie. Reese Whitherspoon is like reprising her role in Legally Blonde, but the plot is a bit more intricate and complicated than what the former movie was...it's good for a watch. She's Versatile In That Role anyway. Good I say. It's like...Johnny Depp. He's played pretty nasty bad characters and really funny characters. like Gilbert Grape, Pirates of the Caribbean, Elm Street, etc. No Less. No small wonder that Laynie likes him. *lolz*

Tomorrow's my father's birthday. My parents are gonna watch the same movie as well. I HOPE they like it as well. I must have gone to the toilet 2-3 times during the movie. *lolz*. BLADDER problem!! Heh.
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Lin Chor 3

12/02/2005

Lin Chor 3

Today didn't go out. Stayed home. Prepared house for guests.

"Sang Woh" tonight in my house. All relatives coming. some friends coming.
Everyone else couldn't make it. ha ha ha.

Weather today still just AS BAD as yesterday afternoon. I dunno why the weather in KL has to be so HOT and SUNNY. Too sunny to even go out at all. I'd rather stay in in my air conditioned room.

Quite a number of my cousins were absent!! *Bloody*!
Anyway, played cards with James, Paul and Ai Ling. James was a bit wary of *gamblin* in the house. Heh. ;-)
*You know, I know lar* ;-)
I finally got the *gist* of the game. AiLing said she learnt to play thru computer games. *lolz*.

My bro, Keng Guan, CheeHoe, George, CheeKong, CheeKeong were playing in the other room. Cards as well!
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2nd day of CNY

10/02/2005

2nd day of CNY

*Damn* What SUNNY Weather.. the weather makes everyone feels sleepy and tired. *sigh*. Lucky my dresses are all made for the weather here. Sun dresses. cool for the skin and this weather. My parents complained. Even my friends did.

Visited 3 families today. Uncle Albert, Keng Yip and Uncle Chuen.

Keng Guan wanted so much to meet Peng Guan .. so he could tease him about the BIRD. ha ha ha ha ha.

*lolz*, but I said to him Better Luck Next Time. ;-) *Awwwwww* KG can be adorable at times...he's 15 this year after all. He couldn't go out with the gang last night. Last year he so desperately wanted to go out with us as well, but was not allowed. This year, he didn't even bother. *lolz*.

Going to visit Jason's later. Will get to meet his friends later...yeah, hopefully he doesn't intro his really OLD OLD guy friends to me at any rate soon.....I dun need that. Ha ha. See lar, where we go out tonight. Don't want to play pool or Coffee Bean again!

Ok, I woke up to a very NOISY neigbhourhood this morning. Someone's house alarm was blattering and screaming since 4am this morning! The neighbour's dog was Whining. and then..there this lost baby bird in my house garden.....where the bird's father and mother was on the roof top was screeching to the baby bird, and the baby bird screeching a reply in return!! On top of that, my brother was making a lot of noise and complaining about the dog Whining.... ha haha.

Oh gawd. What a cacophony!!! *DaMn*. What Hoo- Haa.

This morning, my father announced to the family that we were going to move to Sunway Kinrara...(Where Is THAT ?). *Mouth Open Shocked!*

What??!!! Move AGAIN???

Are you mad? This is like the 4th time I'll be moving to Gawd-Knows-WHere???? Why does my dad like to spring surprises on the whole family?? I protested about how far away it was from the city, and my brother made more noise on top of what he had be complaining since Morning. *lolz*.

Anyway, got a text from my niece in NZ, Kimberly and high school friend, KKT. The latter just returned from OZ. Will have to meet up with him next wk lar although he persists in meeting THIS week. This week too busy leh.

Ok, KKT, I shall NOT answer that question that you posed.....Ha ha ha. I'm not even going to pretend to knw what you imply by ASKING me that!!! *LoLz*

AhhhhhHHHH IT just started to Rain!! YES YES YES YES YES......It's times like this I love the rain!!!
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CNY 2005.

CNY 2005.

It is the 2nd day of CNY. My grandma had jai choy meehoon and tong shui for brunch yesterday...First day mah! Everyone goes vegetarian..WEll, as long as the food is edible! I washed my hair. Do I care if its bad luck? It beats having oily hair. Euuuuuuuuuu!!!

Anyway, thanks to all my friends for all the lovely CNY text messages......Sorry that I can't keep all of it. Too many for my cell phone to keep lar!!! I got a text from Celyn this morning! The bastard! She changed her cell no. and neglected to inform me! BASTARD!!! Hah!

Well, I used to think that CNY was like a Boys BootCamp coz they were SO MANY BOY COUSINS....7 single men when I was much younger. Only 5 remaining now. *lolz*. Oh well...we're all getting older.
We used to play the PS or some video games during CNY, and I still remember that time at Chee Kong's place. That was like a long long time ago...I was still in high school then, and Jason beat me at some Sonic game.

The boys: AiYah, Boys BETTER than Girls at Sonic Game.
Me: What CRAP.
Boys: It's TruE what.
Karen: Yeah...its true.
Me: Nonsense! I shall NOT hear for it!

Anyway, all of us, 8 cousins, went out to Breakers, Hartamas for some post-dinner CNY sessions. KengYip drove his car this time...coz last year, Karen got lost after sending them back. *lolz*. Same like last year lar..but then we went to CoffeeBean on the 1st day. See what happens this year lor.

Met Phoebe, a friend of Jason from MGS. Oi, Asta, she is your former classmate lar....know what? I used to think that Jason was really good looking when I was in high school. Ha ha. But the years do change, don't they? ;-)

PG came over for a short interlude, and then we went off for a drive. The Curve is actually right bside Ikano Centre. I didn't even know!!

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Hmmmm..you know, here I am thinking, why do guyfriends always say something that doesn't reflect what is on their mind? Well, I know I am guilty of that. It's like,

Me: What is on your mind?
Friend: Nothing.
Me: Come on. When you give me that look, I know that there must be something on your mind.
Friend: Nah. ...... *makes some inaudible paralinguistic sound*
Me: Are you sure? Come on...
Friend: Really, there is NOTHING on my mind...
Me: Oh, alright. If you don't want to tell me, it's fine then.

It's like, I think I know what is on their minds. But the friend will give me a really really vague answer. My gut instincts tell me that I know WHAT is on their mind but since they don't give a me a confirmation on the correct answer, then I can't be bothered. I'm sure they will tell me when the time comes. HOWEVER, the problem is, it always turns out THE answer that has been on my mind all this while.

I have had two instances of this happening in the past one year...and its like, in that flash of insight, even before I need to ask the person, the answer was already there....and I dread the time when they would actually come and ask me or tell me or confirm what is on my mind....It is kind of mindboggling, that I sometimes really don't know what to do. It's like I'm stuck at this crossroad, and there's basically nothing much I can really do about it. Don't ask me how I know, ya? *Sigh*.

The other scenario would be,

Me: Why are you like that?
Friend: because I'm like that / I don't like it / (the reply will vary).
Me: Ok then... IF you say so...

And then very much later.....

Friend: You know I was/am like that for a reason... (and gives some lame pathetic excuse....)
Me: Uh Huh.
Friend: Well, what do u think?
Me: (keeping a STRAIGHT face). Oh, Really? I SEE. I have NO comments.
(but inside, in a silent soliloquy like that MAD girl from Naruto)

...You DAMN DAMN Stupid Fella. You think I stupid kah??

You see, you see...I knew this all the while. I just wanted to see how long you will keep at it. Why must you make up stupid excuses which cant even make it past the lie detector??
Shit. My brain definitely works better than the lie detector.
You deserve the award for the "World's Best Lamest Excuse ". Tsk. Tsk. Tsk.

Well, obviously I don't say it out. You MAD ah? You want me to get STRANGLED ah????

Go figure.
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CNY shopping.

08/02/2005

CNY shopping.

I got this really cool brown trench coat from Padini for about RM99.50. (original price, RM199). Ha ha. I love it!! It needs a bit of altering to fit my size, but all in all, it's GORGEOUS!!!
It really is a versatile coat...can be zipped from above and from below. Can't wait to show the trench coat to my mom tomorrow morning!!

Went shopping with KMT at 1Utama on Monday night. When I was there at Jusco, I was walking past this guy who was wearing this particular attire.WWWWOOOHHHHHHH!!! I was feeling absolutely tired but the moment I saw it, I couldn't let the moment go away with my doing anything about it!!
So I walked up to him and asked him where he got the particular attire and he told me. KMT just stood there looking at me talking there with his mouth OPEN!!
*LOLZ*.

I think the fella was quite pleased that a stranger would actually go up to him and asked him where he got that attire from! LoLz!
I know, coz I saw him smiling at me when he walked past me with his friend when I was looking through a display of greeting cards a little later. ;-)

I was feeling absolutely tired and almost falling asleep, but KMT was such a dear to walk down a few floors to get me a can of coffee....Awwww. Thanks, KMT for holding my clothes. The perfect gentleman! ;-)

Anyway, when I was there, I bumped into Alicia Mak Mei Su and her bf, and also JUNE!!! that sly girl! dating that malay guyfriend from HELP on the sly..(I saw them holding hands!! Hah!)
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I'm playing with *FIRE*.

07/02/2005

I'm playing with *FIRE*.

Fire is GOOD. It keeps you WARM.
Fire is GOOD. It COOKS your food.
Fire is GOOD. It LIGHTS up the place.
Fire is GOOD. As long as it is kept SMALL.

Yet, Why do I feel THAT I might be Playing with Fire?

WHAT am I getting myself into?

It is a DANGEROUS game of Tug & War that I am playing with, this fire.

I really DON'T KNOW what I am getting myself into.

I feel that it may just GROW unexpectedly and CONSUME me.

And I am REALLY afraid of THAT.

I really am.

I really am afraid of the fire.
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Non Verbal Communication.

Non Verbal Communication.

The past week has been most *surreal*. I guess.

Had to complete an essay and study for a CMS exam...*seriously* I don't even know HOW I managed that as well....*lolz*.

By God's grace, I managed to finish the essay by Friday afternoon, get it all typed up and hand it in. I don't even know if the essay meets the requirements, or if I will *PASS* or not....everything was in a BLuR. Just as my first essay was...uh....I thought I *failed*, but somehow I managed to Pass like 40/50...which was most surprising.
It's like everything just happened in a blur, and it went past and over my head?

Halfway through the CMS exam, my stomach started *grumbling*. And there I was thinking

..ok..I'm hungry..I'm hungry...I'm hungry. I'm getting really hungry, I'm so hungry...

ChinMun joked why didn't I WRITE that in my test paper and say that I couldn't argue the case anymore, since I was GETTING SO HUNGRY, so I NEED NOT do the paper anymore.......

Right. Right. Right....Like that's going to work and get me sympathy marks, eh????

Well, if that works, I wouldn't mind doing that. But I doubt that would ever happen in a MILLLION YEARRSSS!!!

Anyway, after the exam, I heard Alice remarking that she fell sleepy halfway through the exam.....Uh HUH. Uh HUh Uh HUH....right, and there I was thinking that I was HUNGRY halfway through the exam. *LOLz*

SY said that halfway through the exam, she realised that what Mr.Chang taught in class, had no co-relation to the exam at alllll........

(actually, I don't think that is true. Not everything we study in class has to do with exams. But I think that by the time we reach university level, we should be able to critically think for ourselves...but then again, SY is already like this OUTSTANDING student in class...so I doubt that would really matter to her, since the course examiners probbly LOVE her essays to DEATH).

Now, I've to finish up an essay for the Parent Think magazine. It shouldn't be TOO difficult, since the content is specifically meant for informal readers. Yup, a parental audience analysis for that .*lolz*.....

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Seriously, I've been using so many of my CMS jargon these days. Peppering my conversations with CMS jargons...hardly transactive model of communication at that. Lolz. Seriously.......even the term "jargon" is a CMS vocab, meaning "specialist terms".

LIke when I had a conversation with ChinMun earlier, we were having a conversation that used the term "perspective" in that academic formal way.. that only another person who has learnt to use it in the same wavelength would have understood it. *Lolz.*.

The Thursday before, I was sitting on the swing to myself, and saying, hmmm...if I waved to the person walking past, I would be engaging in non-verbal communication even without having to say a word out at all. Waving is non-verbal communication substituting for verbal communication the equivalent of "Hi!". *Lolz*

What came into mind is the scene in Legally Blonde1, where Reese Whitherspoon kept tapping her shoes LOUDLY on the floor, to show her displeasure of someone who cut her queue at the water cooler. The scene probbly made an impression on me, as I repeated it when one day when I was at the Guardian Pharmacy, and this two ladies in front of me probbly took up about ten minutes and everyone else was waiting in line. So NOT saying anything, I JUST did that. The ladies in front FINALLY got the hint, Coz I was Tapping my shoes SO LOUD, they couldn't Ignore It. ;-)

Hmm....another example was actually during the CMS exam. The person who were invigilating the exam was actually this young man and woman (who were students in college). I was sitting in the front row, and they were sitting beside each other and giggling away. So I gave this "ahem" and cleared my throat. Obviously they stopped waht they were doing and looked at me! *lolz*. Anyway, when I requested for an extra booklet of paper for my perusal, the man came walking and smiling to me. Ok, I didn't understand that part either! *LOLZ*.

Anyway, I have NO QUALMS about flirting with a guy depending on the non-verbal communication he gives out. Ok, this is just to illustrate a point. I was at a Kiyosaki seminar a couple of months back. My friend, S and his friend, a galpal were just standing there. Well, anyway, being the affectionate kind of person that I am, I went up to him and I lied my head against him.

My platonic guyfriend, (to me anyway), who was with me, started complaining later when we were on our way home, saying that those two were dating or something like that.

So I went, right...... I didn't see any kind of behaviour between the both of them that indicated any hint of that? Anyway, I didn't think that was any matter or problem with that, since my friend S, DID NOT Complain about IT anyway!

Now that I reflect on that situation, I can put into words that it was the non-verbal communication between them that communicated to me that there was Clearly Nothing Going Between the both of them, no matter how much my friend protested! *lolz*

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When I was talking to Eugene, I was thinking in terms of paralinguistics, the sound element of non-verbal communication. Ha ha. Even the tone that I used with him punctuates the mood of the conversation. ;-)

I tried that out with my mother today after my church service as well. Normally, I don't manja my mother, nor even bother doing that. But today, out of necessity, and desperation (as they say, Necessity is the Mother of Invention), and I had no car to drive around then, I imitated what my brother has been an expert for all this year. Manja-ing my mother.

I kept pushing her shoulder. and went on and on, persistingly going at "Where are you going after service, mom? Miii.., where are you going after service, mom.?? Meeee, where are you going after service, mom?" in front of the other members of the congregration looking on.

I didn't know if she would like it or not, but SURPRISINGLY, I got the same response! Hei man, that's what you'll get if you TAKE A RISK! ;-)

But hey, if I get what I want at the end of it, it sure would be worth my effort, right? *lolz*


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The communications course, is to help a person reflect on how well they are able to communicate with others. I think, going through this course, has helped me be aware of my style of communicating my needs with others.

Hence as a result, please do not get surprised if I go at you with terms such as have you been able to
"communicate your/my needs" to you (as I have done with Ai Ling, *lolz*), if you ever come to me with a problem and have told me, but not everyone else.

(although it may not be entirely a transactive model of communication if I go at you with jargon! *lolz*)

As it is, I can listen to your problems, but the main thing is that, at the end of the day, if you have a problem with your mates, you SHOULD clearly and effectively communicate your needs to them, so that the receiver could "decode" the message that you would like to communicate across to them as well. :-)

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Anyway, today I managed to go to Nichii Fashions to get half my clothes bought. I got about 3 plain tops, 1 unique brown top, 1 brown dress, and 1 brown skirt. all for about RM100+. There are times when I wouldn't mind paying more for a really uniquely designed dress, but most of the time, most clothes are just over priced, and my being experienced in paying value for clothes (thanks to my mother and Celyn). I wouldn't mind paying good $$ for something if I think it really is WORTH it. Normally I'd just leave the specific article there at the shop, if I am hesitating. If the article of clothing keeps coming back to my mind, THEN only I'd go back to get it. :-). That makes more sense to me anyway.

The dinner was wellll...Actually, I was starving by the time I arrived for dinner...I kept whining and whining....until everyone actually went in for dinner. *LOLZ*

My uncles and aunts kept prodding everyone like...my brother and me, Chin Mun and Jason if we were dating around. My brother TOTALLY protested making a huge noise from behind the computer where he and the other cousins were fiddling with the Internet connection. *lolz*.
Jason already has a gf, so I think they weren't too concerned with it.

As for Mabel, she was complaining that she currently was NOT seeing anyone (yeah right. In your dreams, Mabel). I was just lying leisurely on her lap and just listening to the entire conversation that was going around me.
Then they started prodding me about dating and how I shouldn't get one yet. *lolz*. One of my aunts kidded that guys in OZ liked girls with an exotic tan like mine and then, Uncle Tony joked that if I were in OZ, I could ask ChinMun to intro all his guyfriends to me, and the guys would be lining up all the way from Queensland to Adelaide just to do work for me a.k.a Tom Sawyer without my having to say anything at all. *lolz*.

Ha ha ha. I'd definitely LIKE to SEE THAT happening. ;-)


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You are a Perfect Date.

06/02/2005

You are a Perfect Date.

You Are A Perfect Date!

Your manners are always spot on
And you know how to make a guy feel great...
...While still letting him do a bit of the chase
Chances are, your only dating problem is too many offers :-)

Are You a Good Date? Take This Quiz :-)

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You are a Romantic Realist.

You are a Romantic Realist.

You are a Romantic Realist

Okay, so you fall in the middle.
You know that love isn't like a greeting card…
Yet you can always find a greeting card to describe your feelings.

You are the best of both worlds
Girly yet independent, dreamy yet serious.
Almost any guy can find balance with you.

Are You Romantic or Realistic? Take This Quiz :-)

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You are a Playful Date.

You are a Playful Date.

You are a Playful Date

Your dating philosophy?
"Fun first, romance later"
You rather scream on a roller coaster...
Then stare in to some guy's eyes over dinner.

Guys to look for:
Men with humorous profiles and quirky interests
Sure that business suit guy may look boring...
But if he likes snowball fights, give him a try

What Kind of Date Are You? Take This Quiz :-)

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Are you a player?

Are you a player?

Not a Player, But You Dabble In the Game.

Sometimes a girl just wants to have fun- and when it's fun you're after, you get it.
But when you want a relationship, you seem to score that as well.
What you want changes from day to day… and from guy to guy.
Luckily, you've got the skills to get whatever you want - and pass the leftovers on to your friends.

Are You a Player? Take This Quiz :-)

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Your Style is Classy.

Your Style is Classy.

Your Style is Classy

You've got class, and you know how to put together a guy catching outfit
You're more likely to shop at Bloomie's than bebe
For you style is looking like a million bucks…
And you're always do with your fantastic yet feminine wardrobe

What's" Your Date Fashion Style? Classy, Sassy, or Trashy? Take This Quiz :-)

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You are a Career Girl!

You are a Career Girl!

You are a Career Girl!

You may not be a CEO yet, but you're well on your way to success.You take your career seriously, and you wouldn't stop working for any guy!An independent woman, you pay for your own car, clothes, and housing.And men appreciate that - at least, the ones as driven as you are.

What Kind of Girl Are You? Take This Quiz :-)

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Bowlby's Attachment theories.

05/02/2005

Bowlby's Attachment theories.

Bowlby's Attachment theories can be related to Adult Attachment theories as well.

First and in accordance with attachment theory, secure adults are more likely than insecure adults to seek support from their partners when distressed. Furthermore, they are more likely to provide support to their distressed partners (e.g., Simpson et al., 1992).

Although some avoidant adults, often called fearfully-avoidant adults, are poorly adjusted despite their defensive nature, others, often called dismissing-avoidant adults, are able to use defensive strategies in an adaptive way.
For example, in an experimental task in which adults were instructed to discuss losing their partner, Fraley and Shaver (1997) found that dismissing individuals (i.e., individuals who are high on the dimension of attachment-related avoidance but low on the dimension of attachment-related anxiety) were just as physiologically distressed (as assessed by skin conductance measures) as other individuals.

When instructed to suppress their thoughts and feelings, however, dismissing individuals were able to do so effectively. That is, they could deactivate their physiological arousal to some degree and minimize the attention they paid to attachment-related thoughts.
Fearfully-avoidant individuals were not as successful in suppressing their emotions.

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Men See You As Playful.

Men See You As Playful.

Men See You As Playful

Men want a challenge and you are the perfect playmate.
You know how to push men's buttons and attract a wide range of guys.
You enjoy living and loving - it's one of your most attractive qualities.
Men are often consumed with desire for you, and you love that!
How Do Men See You? Take This Quiz :-)

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CMS exam tomorrow!!

03/02/2005

CMS exam tomorrow!!

Hi ppl. Wish me luck for my CMS exam tomorrow. I REALLY NEED it!

Hope to meet up with Annie on Saturday night!!

Love you, darling!!! *muacks!!*
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The Water is Wide....

01/02/2005

The Water is Wide....

The water is wide I can not get o'er, And neither have I wings to fly ,

Give me a boat that will carry two, And both shall row my love and I

Where love is planted O there it grows, It grows and blossoms like a rose,

It has a sweet and pleasant smell, No flower on Earth can it excel

A ship there is and she sails the sea, She's loaded deep as deep can be,

But not so deep as the love I'm in, I know not if I sink or swim

O love is handsome and love is fine, And love's a jewel while it is new,

But when it is old it grows so cold,

And fades away like morning dew

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If I Loved You.

If I Loved You.

When I worked in the mill weavin' at the loom

I'd gaze absent minded at the roof

And half the time the shuttle o tangle in the threads

And the warp o get mixed with the woof

If I loved you, But somehow I ken see,Just exack'ly how I'd be ,

If I loved you Time and again I would try to say All I'd want you to know

If I loved you , Words wouldn't come in an easy way, Round in circles I'd go,

Longing to tell you, but afraid and shy.

I'd let my golden chances pass me by.

Soon you'd leave me.

Off you would go in the mist of day.

Never, never to know,

How I loved you, if I loved you…

Longing to tell you, but afraid and shy

I'd let my golden chances pass me by

Soon you'd leave me.

Off you would go in the mist of day

Never, never to know

If I loved you

If I loved you

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The Laughing Song (Mein Herr Marquis)

The Laughing Song (Mein Herr Marquis)

My dear Marquis
Why must you be
So loathe to use your eyes

When you stop and stare
Take a lot more care
And closely scrutinise

My fingers, my ankles, my feet
Ha ha ha ha ha
How shapely and trim and petite
Ha ha ha ha ha
Both accent and inflection
show polish to perfection
Such graces are the traces of our old elite
Such graces are the traces of our old elite

I marvel how a man like you
Could fail to see my blood was blue
What a gorgeous,
ha ha ha
Situation,
ha ha ha
What a startling,
ha ha ha
Revelation,
ha ha ha ha ha
What a friendly,
ha ha ha Situation,
ha ha ha haaaa aaaa aaa aaaa
Ahhhh aaahhhhhh
Marquis,
oh, what a wag you are

Profiles they say
Give the game away
When formed with classic grace
If the head on view
Isn't much to you
Then look at me side-face
What evidence more can there be,
ha ha ha ha ha
I sing at soirees without fee,
ha ha ha ha ha ha
Bestowing my attention
With lofty condescension
Such graces are the traces of a pedigree
Such graces are the traces of a pedigree
All's one to you, though I'm afraid
Because you love a parlour maid
What a friendly,
ha ha ha
Situation,
ha ha ha
What a startling,
ha ha ha
Revelation,
ha ha ha ha ha
What a friendly,
ha ha ha
Situation,
ha ha ha haaaa aaaa aaa aaaaa
Ahhhh aaahhhhhh ahhh aaahhh aahhh
Ahhhhh aaaaahhhhhh aaaaahhhhhhhAhhhhhaaaaahhhhhhaaaaahhhhhhh
AhhhhhaaaaahhhhhhaaaaahhhhhhhAhhhhhaaaaahhhhhhaaaaahhhhhhh Ahhhhhhhhhhhaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
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Cant Help loving dat man of mine

Cant Help loving dat man of mine

Oh listen sister , I love my mister man

And I can't tell you why Dere ain't no reason, Why I should love dat man,

It mus' be sumpin' dat de angels done plan,

De chimney's smokin' , De roof is leakin' in , But he don't seem to care,

He can be happy with jus' a sip of gin, I even loves him when his kisses got gin ,

Fish got to swim, and birds got to fly , I got to love one man 'til I die ,

Can't help lovin' dat man of mine.
Tell me he's lazy, tell me he's slow,

Tell me I'm crazy, maybe I know, Can't help lovin' dat man of mine ,

When he goes away , Dat's a rainy day,

And when he comes back, dat day is fine, The sun will shine

He can come home as late as can be , Home without him ain't no home to me,

Can't help lovin' dat man of mine,

When he goes away , Dat's a rainy day ,

And when he comes back , dat day is fine ,

The sun will shine

He kin come home as late as can be,

Home without him ain't no home to me ,

Can't help lovin' dat man of mine.

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